Is it every girl's dream to get married?

Being a 22 year old woman in the 21^st Century has many pressures of how to live life. I must go to school and have an education. I must go to church and thank God for giving me that education. I must respect my elders. Other pressures include dressing to impress at all times, believe me you don’t want to be seen on a bad hair day. Then I must wear those heels to go to the club on a Friday night with my friends, hoping to find that ‘perfect’ guy, or should I say man.

There seem to be many pressures for me in particular right? Wrong. In this century, when I do eventually meet that guy at the club feeling a bit intoxicated I can get away with it, but one pressure that doesn’t exist in my circle of association is to actually marry that guy. Marriage is, or should I say used to be such a sacred ceremony between two people who are in love and want to show that love by spending the rest of their lives together. This means they make a vow in church before the priest, the people attending the wedding and most importantly, before God. When I think of this, I realize that it is a huge commitment to make, especially if you’re a black man. Why? Well I think the reasons are obvious:

1.)  The majority of them cheat.

2.)  They mostly have a child or kids with different baby mammas before they marry you.

3.)  They lie at the alter before the priest, your family and God about being faithful to you.

Ok fellows don’t bite my head off, I am just expressing my view. For me and a few other women out there, the pressure of getting married has dropped immensely.  Women of this century, young and old are doing it for themselves. They are educated, own businesses and are single moms raising two children, meaning they don’t really need a man to give them a helping hand. What I am communicating is the fact that a less number of women feel that they should get married in order to be classified as ‘normal’. Long ago it was a normal thing for a woman to go to school, graduate, and work a few years, then get married to start a family. Now that sort of thing has faded with more and more women walking around with oval shaped stomachs and no ring on their finger. More women are single mothers and others have decided to quit the dating game and settle down on their own.

My question remains, is it every girl’s dream to get married. I can only answer this question for myself based on my ethics and morals. The answer is yes, reason being that I grew up in a marriage and would not want my children to be raised out of marriage. Then again based on the ethics and morals of the 21^st Century, I would not even consider getting married because of the way anti-marriage has spread amongst women today. I respect this special ceremony and believe that it is something very important, but in reality, this ceremony just might become extinct.